Earlier this week I was with my nutrition coach and awesome friend Sarah Jenks when another one of her clients walked by. When she saw us she stopped to make it known that she was taking care and time for her self. After just getting a manicure and massage she was headed home for a bubble bath. As she determinedly made her declaration I could sense the uneasiness in her energy.
I forgot about the incident that happened on Monday until about an hour ago. 5 pm on Thursday. I had gotten my work done and was leaving when I noticed something. I now felt that same uneasy energy. Was it so awful I was going straight home after work? What would I do? This was not the norm for me and perhaps it’s not for many of you.
I fear we have all gotten a little too comfortable with always doing something. My days usually start with me leaving my apartment at 8:30 am and not returning till 10:30 pm or later, almost every night of the week. I, Kelsea, have become a professional doer.
Whether it’s a class or dinner, the gym or a coaching session, I am always doing something.
I love my life and all that I fill it with, however something has become quite off balance, and I am starting to feel the consequences. Too much of anything is a bad thing. So no matter how much I love my post work activities, I need to love me more.
It’s been several months now of “doing” and by the end of each week I am drained. I have a hard time getting up in the morning, am having trouble falling asleep and my bedroom, is a mess. Constantly eating on the go, or not at all and putting some of my important priorities on the back burner, has become the result of spreading myself too thin. I have no “me” time anymore and I am the only person that can fix that. No class, dinner or even a life coach, can help
We tend to wear our busyness like a designer handbag. As a symbol of status and pride, when so often the truth is it costs us too much. We think the more we do, the more important we will feel. Our self sabotaging thoughts tell us if we are not constantly on the go, then we’re lazy, anti social and other lies our mind creates.
After unrecognizably participating in this experiment, I can tell you that is not the truth. It is doing too much has made me lazy (and flakey) two adjectives I normally would not use to describe myself. I wish I spent more time at the gym, I have a tower of books I am dying to dive into and my living space resembles my chaotic schedule. Nothing I am proud to write. As a life coach I should know better, but perhaps I had to experience this first hand to remember how not to live.
My favorite author and spiritual activist Marianne Williamson says that our mind tells us that when we are doing nothing, we are nothing. However, quite the opposite is true, when we are doing nothing, we are everything. In these “nothing” moments is when we can take time to reconnect to ourselves, and in that reconnection we begin to connect to everything that matters most.
Its 6:30 on a Thursday and I am home, and when someone asks me what I did tonight, Ill proudly say, “nothing.”
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Saturday, March 27, 2010
How to be Happy: 10 Simple Steps to Turn Your Day Around
As first seen in The Beauty Bean
Whether you woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning or are in the midst of a midday break down, your bad mood doesn’t have to stick until daybreak tomorrow. The bottom line: feeling badly feels, well, bad. So don’t wait for the negative feelings to pass and, instead, take control of your thoughts and adjust your feelings for a better end to the day with these ten simple steps to happy.
Breathe. This is perhaps the simplest tip of them all, yet one of the hardest to remember to do. When we get upset, our muscles tighten and tense while our breath becomes more shallow and frequent. Instead of hyperventilating, though, take 3 deep breaths (taking 10 seconds for each inhale and an additional 10 seconds for each exhale). This simple act will help bring new energy into your body and help you reconnect with your body, mind and soul.
Walk Away. Step away from whatever it is your doing, even if it’s supposed to be helping, and walk away, literally. In the office? Take a bathroom break. Inside? Go out. A change of scenery will force you to pay more attention to what you are doing rather than what you are feeling and will help you gain a new perspective so you can return to the task with a sense of calm.
Music. Compile a playlist of your favorite “feel good” songs and, whenever you’re feeling in a funk, pop in your earphones. Music releases dopamine, the feel good chemical in our brain; so, whenever you’re feeling down, give yourself a few minutes to turn the volume up.
Move. Even better then just listening to your favorite song, is moving to it. Get to the gym, go outside for a walk or just do some jumping jacks. Together, music and movement will increase your dopamine production and have you feeling happier in no time!
Phone. Calling a friend can often be one of the best ways to overcome a negative attitude, feeling or mood. Don’t, however, call a friend to complain – trust us, it won’t help. Rather, tell your friend both how you feel and (here’s the important part:) how you would like to feel. Placing the focus on how you want to feel, rather than how you currently feel, will quickly precipitate a positive shift in both your thoughts and feelings.
Smile! We know it sounds silly (and, we admit, it is), but smile, even if you’re not feeling it and even if no one’s around. Who knows, the silliness of it all may just make you laugh.
Google. Pick the word that best describes the way want to feel and do a google search for quotes on your word of choice. Whether you search for “quotes on happy” or “calm quotes,” countless results will appear. Take time to find one you love, write it down and read it throughout your day.
Reach out. Call a friend or family member and see how they are, help a stranger or smile at someone you don’t know. Being of service to others benefits us all.
Mantra. Pick the word that describes how you want to feel (perhaps the one you’ve already googled) and recite it in your mind. Focusing with intent on that which we desire brings it to us that much faster.
Stop. So often resisting our feelings, rather then just accepting them, causes our suffering. If you have tried the 9 tips above and nothing is working, surrender. Accept that you need to feel the way you do right now for some reason and that it’s okay – that you’re okay.
Whether you woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning or are in the midst of a midday break down, your bad mood doesn’t have to stick until daybreak tomorrow. The bottom line: feeling badly feels, well, bad. So don’t wait for the negative feelings to pass and, instead, take control of your thoughts and adjust your feelings for a better end to the day with these ten simple steps to happy.
Breathe. This is perhaps the simplest tip of them all, yet one of the hardest to remember to do. When we get upset, our muscles tighten and tense while our breath becomes more shallow and frequent. Instead of hyperventilating, though, take 3 deep breaths (taking 10 seconds for each inhale and an additional 10 seconds for each exhale). This simple act will help bring new energy into your body and help you reconnect with your body, mind and soul.
Walk Away. Step away from whatever it is your doing, even if it’s supposed to be helping, and walk away, literally. In the office? Take a bathroom break. Inside? Go out. A change of scenery will force you to pay more attention to what you are doing rather than what you are feeling and will help you gain a new perspective so you can return to the task with a sense of calm.
Music. Compile a playlist of your favorite “feel good” songs and, whenever you’re feeling in a funk, pop in your earphones. Music releases dopamine, the feel good chemical in our brain; so, whenever you’re feeling down, give yourself a few minutes to turn the volume up.
Move. Even better then just listening to your favorite song, is moving to it. Get to the gym, go outside for a walk or just do some jumping jacks. Together, music and movement will increase your dopamine production and have you feeling happier in no time!
Phone. Calling a friend can often be one of the best ways to overcome a negative attitude, feeling or mood. Don’t, however, call a friend to complain – trust us, it won’t help. Rather, tell your friend both how you feel and (here’s the important part:) how you would like to feel. Placing the focus on how you want to feel, rather than how you currently feel, will quickly precipitate a positive shift in both your thoughts and feelings.
Smile! We know it sounds silly (and, we admit, it is), but smile, even if you’re not feeling it and even if no one’s around. Who knows, the silliness of it all may just make you laugh.
Google. Pick the word that best describes the way want to feel and do a google search for quotes on your word of choice. Whether you search for “quotes on happy” or “calm quotes,” countless results will appear. Take time to find one you love, write it down and read it throughout your day.
Reach out. Call a friend or family member and see how they are, help a stranger or smile at someone you don’t know. Being of service to others benefits us all.
Mantra. Pick the word that describes how you want to feel (perhaps the one you’ve already googled) and recite it in your mind. Focusing with intent on that which we desire brings it to us that much faster.
Stop. So often resisting our feelings, rather then just accepting them, causes our suffering. If you have tried the 9 tips above and nothing is working, surrender. Accept that you need to feel the way you do right now for some reason and that it’s okay – that you’re okay.
Monday, December 21, 2009
The Weather of our Lives
If you think about it we treat life a lot like a blizzard warning,
spending time preparing and fearing the worst when so often all we get
is rain or a light dusting. Yet time after time the fearful voice
inside our minds convinces us that the worst possible outcome is the
only outcome. So we prepare. We devise a plan, stock up, complain, and
find all the reasons why this storm in particular is really going to
trap us. Like the forecasters (bless them), we so often create
scenarios in our minds that rarely, if ever, happen in reality. Yet our
fear of the anticipated blizzard can leave us paralyzed for days.
Sound familiar? Spending days, weeks, or months dreading something
that you have no control over is a total waste of time. Not to mention
that we are not even sure it will happen. Yet we seem to have already
decided that the storm will be the worst of the week, month, year and
end in the worst scenario possible. Living with these thoughts is
simply a waste of time and energy.
The stories we tell ourselves can become quite dramatic and more times
than not, they never pan out nearly as awful as the way we envision.
Yet these stories, can bring us to a place where we feel angry,
resentful, and scared, without the first flake even falling.
Sometimes blizzards do take our lives by storm. No matter if we can
prepare for them or not, ultimately the weather of our lives will not
always be sunny and warm. There will be cold, rainy, snowy days and
yes, possibly disastrous storms. However, it’s not just the storms we
wait for that deserve our attention but the days and hours in the
meantime that we call life.
So we can spend our time worrying about the “weather” or we can deal
with predicted blizzards by affirming a desired positive outcome. Then
we surrender that which is out of our control. This does not mean we
don’t prepare, but the preparation is so much less fear driven and in
that way much more enjoyable. So if the blizzard does come perhaps we
are able to more clearly see the size of the obstacle and maybe even
enjoy the beauty of the snow.
spending time preparing and fearing the worst when so often all we get
is rain or a light dusting. Yet time after time the fearful voice
inside our minds convinces us that the worst possible outcome is the
only outcome. So we prepare. We devise a plan, stock up, complain, and
find all the reasons why this storm in particular is really going to
trap us. Like the forecasters (bless them), we so often create
scenarios in our minds that rarely, if ever, happen in reality. Yet our
fear of the anticipated blizzard can leave us paralyzed for days.
Sound familiar? Spending days, weeks, or months dreading something
that you have no control over is a total waste of time. Not to mention
that we are not even sure it will happen. Yet we seem to have already
decided that the storm will be the worst of the week, month, year and
end in the worst scenario possible. Living with these thoughts is
simply a waste of time and energy.
The stories we tell ourselves can become quite dramatic and more times
than not, they never pan out nearly as awful as the way we envision.
Yet these stories, can bring us to a place where we feel angry,
resentful, and scared, without the first flake even falling.
Sometimes blizzards do take our lives by storm. No matter if we can
prepare for them or not, ultimately the weather of our lives will not
always be sunny and warm. There will be cold, rainy, snowy days and
yes, possibly disastrous storms. However, it’s not just the storms we
wait for that deserve our attention but the days and hours in the
meantime that we call life.
So we can spend our time worrying about the “weather” or we can deal
with predicted blizzards by affirming a desired positive outcome. Then
we surrender that which is out of our control. This does not mean we
don’t prepare, but the preparation is so much less fear driven and in
that way much more enjoyable. So if the blizzard does come perhaps we
are able to more clearly see the size of the obstacle and maybe even
enjoy the beauty of the snow.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Tripping in the Fall
With September comes change. The feeling of new beginnings sets in for many. This year I personally have decided to begin again by
going back to school. It will be a lot of work, and this I
knew, but I am very excited for this new endeavor. In the mindset of
changes and beginnings, I feel as though I want to jump at every
opportunity I see. Perhaps in the back of my mind I am longing for a
complete 180 in certain areas of my life.
Thoughts of changing jobs, moving apartments, amping up my wardrobe,
and planning fantastic nights out are all ways for me to escape my
current reality. “Escape” is my word of choice because that’s what
those activities offer me. In this state of mind I begin frantically
debating taking on yet another training and dropping it into my
already jam packed schedule. Before I can even contemplate what is it
I am about to take on my mind starts to race yet again. I am
ridiculously thinking ahead to November, scheduling my weeks and
weekends, asking myself how will I ever handle it all. I haven’t even
made the decision to move forward, and I’m already logistically stuck.
The push and pull of my mind leads me to the exact spot I need to be.
I am on my floor, CD playing with a crystal in my hand. I close my
eyes, breathe deep, and ask aloud what it is I am seeking the answer
to. I am specific when I ask. I know I will receive the answer. So I
listen.
Almost instantly I am guided to my
answer. Right now I am busy, and if I want to do more then the
activities I should engage in are more reading, cooking,
yoga, and rest. Regardless of what the details may be in how I am to
spend my time, the point is to spend more time on me, for me. Rather
than squeeze in yet another training, class or event, the one way to
spend my time that I will truly benefit from is to devote it to
myself.
I share this because I believe this is the case for all of us. No
matter how great for us the action, event, class is that we are
attending, sometimes too much of a great thing can be too much. We
fill our schedules from 7 AM to 11 PM, making sure to see everyone we
know, promising to go up, down, east and west to meet the needs of
others, support those we love, and hopefully to have fun. Yet when
does it become too much? What are we rushing to accomplish anyway? If
we look back in our lives, we have all met certain goals only to have
new ribbons and another finish line to cross in the distance. The
reality is the race will never end. However the faster we run through
it, the more we miss, the less enjoyable it becomes.
I am not saying don’t do something that you want to do, but if your
desire becomes more about filling your time rather than taking time to
really enjoy what it is your doing, I suggest you sit down, relax, and
ask.
going back to school. It will be a lot of work, and this I
knew, but I am very excited for this new endeavor. In the mindset of
changes and beginnings, I feel as though I want to jump at every
opportunity I see. Perhaps in the back of my mind I am longing for a
complete 180 in certain areas of my life.
Thoughts of changing jobs, moving apartments, amping up my wardrobe,
and planning fantastic nights out are all ways for me to escape my
current reality. “Escape” is my word of choice because that’s what
those activities offer me. In this state of mind I begin frantically
debating taking on yet another training and dropping it into my
already jam packed schedule. Before I can even contemplate what is it
I am about to take on my mind starts to race yet again. I am
ridiculously thinking ahead to November, scheduling my weeks and
weekends, asking myself how will I ever handle it all. I haven’t even
made the decision to move forward, and I’m already logistically stuck.
The push and pull of my mind leads me to the exact spot I need to be.
I am on my floor, CD playing with a crystal in my hand. I close my
eyes, breathe deep, and ask aloud what it is I am seeking the answer
to. I am specific when I ask. I know I will receive the answer. So I
listen.
Almost instantly I am guided to my
answer. Right now I am busy, and if I want to do more then the
activities I should engage in are more reading, cooking,
yoga, and rest. Regardless of what the details may be in how I am to
spend my time, the point is to spend more time on me, for me. Rather
than squeeze in yet another training, class or event, the one way to
spend my time that I will truly benefit from is to devote it to
myself.
I share this because I believe this is the case for all of us. No
matter how great for us the action, event, class is that we are
attending, sometimes too much of a great thing can be too much. We
fill our schedules from 7 AM to 11 PM, making sure to see everyone we
know, promising to go up, down, east and west to meet the needs of
others, support those we love, and hopefully to have fun. Yet when
does it become too much? What are we rushing to accomplish anyway? If
we look back in our lives, we have all met certain goals only to have
new ribbons and another finish line to cross in the distance. The
reality is the race will never end. However the faster we run through
it, the more we miss, the less enjoyable it becomes.
I am not saying don’t do something that you want to do, but if your
desire becomes more about filling your time rather than taking time to
really enjoy what it is your doing, I suggest you sit down, relax, and
ask.
Monday, September 21, 2009
My blog- on http://bevinreilly.blogspot.com/
SO. I have such an amazing guest blog this week. My awesome friend, mentor, sponsor, and role-model has allowed me to get my hands on a blog entry she wrote in which she faces an addiction she has. To sugar. Addictions can come in all forms. People can be addicted to drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, relationships, sex, TV, facebook, exercise.... you name it. It doesn't have to mean that the person isn't absolutely incredible, approachable, and pretty much normal. This is why I love Kelsea's entry. She lets us see that having an addiction of some kind (and most people have one to something) is super understandable--- even relatable. Read on below:
I am an addict...
to sugar that is... something I have been denying for quite some time. But after reading only a few chapters of Sugar Blues by William Duffy, I feel almost a weird sense of relief when he compares sugar addiction to that of hardcore drugs. It was last night with my life coach (www.gabriellebernstein.com), that she asked I make a commitment to abstinence for 90 days! I was at the point of needing to be told what to do, lost in my direction, but so ready to be over the insane cravings that turned into binges on boxes of cereal, ice cream, cookies and any other sweet you can name (except fruit of course). Could i do it? Yes of course I could, and better yet I would blog about my experience, write down all my meals and be a warrior of my addiction!I would incorporate all my knowledge as a Weight Watchers member over the last three years, my new knowledge of food combining from Natalia Rose's Detox 4 Women, and my general sense of nutrition to combat the addiction that would soon harm my body and mind in perhaps ways I would never consider. I felt good, empowered, a little nervous, but excited because today I counted day one no sugar.
No sugar that is until.. after a home made meal of salads with a friend, we went for a walk. On this walk on New York City's Highline park, at the bottom of the stairs on 20th St and 9th Ave we spotted.. ICE CREAM!! All natural creamy delicious- MINT Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Ice Cream. I mean are you kidding me!!! So we split a small one scoop.. not bad right?Of course after we finish, my mouth still watering and my body CRAVING more, I reveal to her my 90 day plan. "I will start tomorrow, I forgive myself and move on" I tell myself. However once we part ways and I am on my trek back to my apartment around 9 pm, I want more!! I think about Tasti Delight, or Pinkberry.. cold creaminess with a sugary topping.. and I want it, I want it so badly! I manage to make it to my apartment safely only to end up in the shower composing in my mind the email I will send to Gabby tomorrow, telling her I didn’t think the sugar detox necessary, 90 days is a very long time, and it is, but I was scared. Scared at the thought, the similarity of self talk between myself and perhaps that of an alcoholic, or drug addict.. thinking that I could control this, I can just dabble once in a while, and it's ok.
But it's not ok! Eating the sugar, yes its ok, do I eat it way too much? Yes! as it is not good for my body and mind. But what isn’t ok , what really isn’t ok , is allowing something outside myself to control me, to turn me into a mad woman. A woman who self-sabotages, makes herself physically ill from eating and ruins hours, days, weekend, vacations in the guilt and pain beginning with the first bite of that sweet something that starts a downward spiral to sug-ell (sugar hell)
The guilt, the pains, the bloat. Feeling tired and cranky and even worse knowing that I was doing it all to myself. A sugar addict I was indeed.. And so today I begin Day one, today, NOW - no Sugar.
Kelsea's voice is clear, familiar, and honest. Everyone bargains with themselves from time to time.... it is part of who we are. (Just today I bargained with myself to run a shorter run than planned because I really didn't want to go. But once I was out there, a few miles in, I felt good. I decided to take the run longer... something I NEVER do... and wound up running 6 miles, and the last three in less than 21 minutes!! So bargaining CAN be reversed...) Kelsea's willingness to share this with us and let her private and true thoughts be heard is just shows how completely common these thoughts are. We all think them sometimes. But she is right. To allow anything or anyone to control you is completely unacceptable. YOU control your actions, beliefs, and thoughts. You are a PRODUCT of your thoughts. And if you want a kick butt life, you better have kick butt thoughts. Use this awesome post as a power of example. Don't let those thoughts that bog you down creep in. And if they do, find out their source, and clean them UP. I can post about how to do that later. Until then, THANK YOU SO MUCH KELSEA!!
PS--- Kels is also the voice behind Her Future's Daily Light! Daily Light is a group on the site that you join and you get an inspirational quote EVERY morning. Kelsea finds them, sends them out to us in the morning, and sets us up to win. Because she is a winner too!
Today's was... "Again and again, the impossible problem is solved when we see that the problem is only a tough decision waiting to be made." Robert H. Schuller
I am an addict...
to sugar that is... something I have been denying for quite some time. But after reading only a few chapters of Sugar Blues by William Duffy, I feel almost a weird sense of relief when he compares sugar addiction to that of hardcore drugs. It was last night with my life coach (www.gabriellebernstein.com), that she asked I make a commitment to abstinence for 90 days! I was at the point of needing to be told what to do, lost in my direction, but so ready to be over the insane cravings that turned into binges on boxes of cereal, ice cream, cookies and any other sweet you can name (except fruit of course). Could i do it? Yes of course I could, and better yet I would blog about my experience, write down all my meals and be a warrior of my addiction!I would incorporate all my knowledge as a Weight Watchers member over the last three years, my new knowledge of food combining from Natalia Rose's Detox 4 Women, and my general sense of nutrition to combat the addiction that would soon harm my body and mind in perhaps ways I would never consider. I felt good, empowered, a little nervous, but excited because today I counted day one no sugar.
No sugar that is until.. after a home made meal of salads with a friend, we went for a walk. On this walk on New York City's Highline park, at the bottom of the stairs on 20th St and 9th Ave we spotted.. ICE CREAM!! All natural creamy delicious- MINT Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Ice Cream. I mean are you kidding me!!! So we split a small one scoop.. not bad right?Of course after we finish, my mouth still watering and my body CRAVING more, I reveal to her my 90 day plan. "I will start tomorrow, I forgive myself and move on" I tell myself. However once we part ways and I am on my trek back to my apartment around 9 pm, I want more!! I think about Tasti Delight, or Pinkberry.. cold creaminess with a sugary topping.. and I want it, I want it so badly! I manage to make it to my apartment safely only to end up in the shower composing in my mind the email I will send to Gabby tomorrow, telling her I didn’t think the sugar detox necessary, 90 days is a very long time, and it is, but I was scared. Scared at the thought, the similarity of self talk between myself and perhaps that of an alcoholic, or drug addict.. thinking that I could control this, I can just dabble once in a while, and it's ok.
But it's not ok! Eating the sugar, yes its ok, do I eat it way too much? Yes! as it is not good for my body and mind. But what isn’t ok , what really isn’t ok , is allowing something outside myself to control me, to turn me into a mad woman. A woman who self-sabotages, makes herself physically ill from eating and ruins hours, days, weekend, vacations in the guilt and pain beginning with the first bite of that sweet something that starts a downward spiral to sug-ell (sugar hell)
The guilt, the pains, the bloat. Feeling tired and cranky and even worse knowing that I was doing it all to myself. A sugar addict I was indeed.. And so today I begin Day one, today, NOW - no Sugar.
Kelsea's voice is clear, familiar, and honest. Everyone bargains with themselves from time to time.... it is part of who we are. (Just today I bargained with myself to run a shorter run than planned because I really didn't want to go. But once I was out there, a few miles in, I felt good. I decided to take the run longer... something I NEVER do... and wound up running 6 miles, and the last three in less than 21 minutes!! So bargaining CAN be reversed...) Kelsea's willingness to share this with us and let her private and true thoughts be heard is just shows how completely common these thoughts are. We all think them sometimes. But she is right. To allow anything or anyone to control you is completely unacceptable. YOU control your actions, beliefs, and thoughts. You are a PRODUCT of your thoughts. And if you want a kick butt life, you better have kick butt thoughts. Use this awesome post as a power of example. Don't let those thoughts that bog you down creep in. And if they do, find out their source, and clean them UP. I can post about how to do that later. Until then, THANK YOU SO MUCH KELSEA!!
PS--- Kels is also the voice behind Her Future's Daily Light! Daily Light is a group on the site that you join and you get an inspirational quote EVERY morning. Kelsea finds them, sends them out to us in the morning, and sets us up to win. Because she is a winner too!
Today's was... "Again and again, the impossible problem is solved when we see that the problem is only a tough decision waiting to be made." Robert H. Schuller
Shine A Light Entry
In this life time whether it be in our own lives or someone else’s, we are all miracle workers. And where do nearly 2000 of us reside? On HerFuture.com . No matter the day your having, amazing or horrific, a la FaceBook sans the updates, newsfeeds and, oh yeah, men; HerFuture.com has become the go to get happy Gen X, Gen Y haven for women. Quotes, stories and articles about love, life and all the good in the world, makes this online networking community a truly safe and beautiful place. Where genuine authentic women can have their voices heard, friends made and perceptions shifted, HerFuture.com upholds values like no other site. Women can connect through Power Posses (think FaceBook groups) to hundreds of other like minded women seeking career connections, books to read and places to go. With message board like updates we share relevant and beautiful info to light up days, or simply provide a virtual shoulder to lean on. Supporting all that we want in life the Believe Power Posse has become one of the most popular. Where members are able to write out to their community, all that they believe and desire in life so often getting cheers of belief in return. Never in my life and especially in the past 5 years have I connected with and made friends so easily. HerFuture.com has been the launching ground for not only new friends but new interests. It is on this site that I have learned about new workouts, connected with gurus of nutrition and built up my own skills as a miracle worker, sending daily morning messages to a group of women determined to see the light, the best in every moment of every day. Really what is cooler than a bunch of young and talented women coming together with one common theme and goal, to simply make life the best possible, seeking happiness in all things, and sharing it with each other. It is with this site that I have literally been able to help change my life. I have met women who perhaps I would have never otherwise, who have helped me get through the tiny stresses of the day that we make mountains of, as well as the truly egotistic thoughts that send us spiraling down. There is no room for doubt and despair on HerFuture.com , sign up with the desire to have your thoughts shifted.
I didn't write this but it's divine
“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique, and if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium; and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, not how it compares with other expression. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep open and aware directly to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open. No artist is pleased. There is no satisfaction whatever at any time. There is on a queer, divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others.” Martha Graham
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